Unequally yoked: Is it really a big deal?

Working with young people, one of the most common questions I hear stems from the apparent Biblical principle that we should not date/marry a person who does not have the same faith in Christ as we do.

Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness? — 2 Corinthians 6:14

The overarching idea seems to be that being in a relationship, with the assumption of eventually being committed to each other in marriage, to someone without the same faith standards as yourself would cause problems in the marriage, and out of a need to see eye-to-eye, could cause those strong in their faith to compromise on their beliefs.

What do you think? Is it really that important for a Christian to marry another Christian? Or is there really a case to be made for “evangelistic dating,” where the Christian tries to convert the non-believing partner?

What has your experience been? Add your comments.

4 thoughts on “Unequally yoked: Is it really a big deal?”

  1. If as a Christian, Jesus is the most important part of your life, why would u even want to make a committment to someone who doesn’t even believe in him? It makes no sense.

    1. I agree, Marcy. The argument I usually hear from that suggestion is that the person may be Catholic or believes in God, but doesn’t seem real committed to God or church. And so the strand of hope they hold up is for the person to suddenly be passionate for God. Or maybe the person is just willing to go to church with them. All of which is very wishful thinking. But I guess the “love” blinds. Have you ever dealt with this at New Life?

  2. Think of this scenario:

    A parent may warn their children about the dangers of bad company and try to protect to even stop them from mingling with those they see as bad company. It is still the child’s choice to make as to whether or not they’ll heed to the words of advice from their parents.
    In some cases the parents may be right in this regard and in others they may be wrong.
    It’s in hind-sight or submission to God in the moment that we determine which case that my be.
    Our earthly relationships with parents or those in authority sometimes may affect our view of who God truly is.
    You see our parents and leaders though they may love us in the best way they know how… they are not God and they don’t know all and they are not perfect (heart -breaking as that is to know, it’s reality)>
    They are trying just as each one of us who has been saved by grace to do what God has called us to.
    We are all on a journey in which we are seeking to bring Glory to God the Father!

    There is no gray area in what the Scripture is saying; it is simply do not be unequally yoked.
    As a believer and follower of Jesus Christ we give the Word of God the authority over our lives.
    We may not always be in agreement with it because we don’t understand the reason for the command. Often we may look at what everyone else is doing because there may be people who may have been unequally yoked and there lives seem picture perfect.
    The reality remains that we are all of a sinful nature and our ideas the greatest of them often times are very foolish in the eyes of God.

    God is Perfect and he know the secret motives of the heart.
    What he commands is good and pure and true!
    He does not want to harm us but he has provided a way for us and it is in choosing His way and as we live it we experience in a new way the goodness of the purest Love and real freedom.

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