Simply said, yes, it is a VERY big deal to be in partnership with a person who does not hold the same beliefs as you. Scripture is clear that this should not be.
Any kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and a house divided against itself will fall. If Satan is divided against himself, how can his kingdom stand? I say this because you claim that I drive out demons by Beelzebul. — Luke 11:17, 18
For this relationship argument, Jesus’ words are what weigh heaviest for me. A kingdom divided against itself will be ruined. If this is true, how can the kingdom you will develop with your partner be built up strong and not fall if you are divided against yourselves from the beginning? You’re setting yourself up for failure.
I see this most often from young women. They meet a nice boy, who they know isn’t a Christian, but they are hoping that fact can either be overlooked or that one day the boy will see things the same why she does. Ladies, I speak to you when I say, the boy isn’t worth it if they are not willing to make the sacrifice in their life before Christ before they make any sacrifice for you in life. What are their priorities? Sure. Invite them to church. Encourage them in their relationship with Christ. But don’t consider a close relationship until after the boy has had some time to develop their relationship in Christ, and has a chance to show the fruit of his faith through the ministries he is involved in.
Evangelistic dating is nonesense. Move on!
Perhaps the greater issue, at least in the circles I am in, is that there is a great lacking in mature Christian guys who are actually growing in their faith and in life, setting goals, achieving them, and setting themselves up well for the future, a future with a wife and family. We’re shooting ourselves in the foot.
Come on, men! Step up! Set your paths straight, acknowledge Christ alone, and give these wonderful women something to choose from!
Question: Have you ever been in a relationship with a person of different beliefs? If you were to marry the person, what choices do you think you would have to compromise on relating to your beliefs to make the marriage work?